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  • Ariel Sánchez Rojas

Build micro-communities to educate respectful, loving, forgiving and strong kids.

The most important educational teaching we can give to children, teens and adults is to be able to participate in relationships and consider the feelings of others. It can happen that there are certain individuals that have fewer neural connections in their circuitry in charge of empathy and relationships (the mammal brain); it’s like anyone who needs extra time with mathematics, language or reading. Hence, anyone can learn what it means to be in a relationship, and to understand the responsibilities that come with it. 


What do we need? Teach them to move from “me” to “we”. It is to say, happiness and fulfillment result from being connected to others while still maintaining a unique identity; so if we teach mindsight we will learn to understand our needs, as well as the other. Why? Because it is about maintaining a healthy sense of self.


Let’s start from the beginning: our brain is a social organ made to be in a relationship. It’s hardwired to take in signals from the social environment and shape or influence our “inner world” or perception. The idea of self and community is highly correlated to the point where devoting one’s attention and passions to the benefit of others is a key factor for well-being. 


The “me” discovers meaning and happiness by joining and belonging to a “we”. By honoring and nurturing our differences while cultivating our connections with one another we are developing interpersonal integration. 


This is because we have mirror neurons, and that is why when someone yawns you do too. It is to say, just by watching our brain is influenced and active by the actions of another. 


(Hint 1: This is the primary reason to focus on micro communities around schools. It is to say, we can’t say “we will reduce bullying in all schools”. We are missing a timeline here. We must say “I will fix 3rd grade and follow up with 4th grade… By the EOY you will have 1 better micro community that will influence the other one; it is a dominó effect.)



So, we know that the kinds of relationships our kids experience will lay the groundwork for how they relate to others for the rest of their lives. So, if we start working on such skills from a young age, by old age they will be capable of solving conflicts in a civilized way.






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